1. We know right away if someone is not going to work for us. Guys rarely make it past the first date. "It's there or it's not. I don't waste my energy or his if there's no spark right away." She said. Agreed.
2."I don't argue anymore, If I don't like how someone treats me and it continues I just leave. I don't tell them; don't do this it pisses me off. I don't expect other people to change their behaviour for me." "Yes," she agreed. "Expecting people to change just creates resentment."
3. I don't set rules in order to avoid situations in which I would feel my romantic interest would "cheat." If there's anything I've learned, it's that if someone is going to have sex with someone else, they will. No matter how many rules are set. The rules simply create stress in the relationship and a general feeling of "I don't trust you." In fact, to take it a bit further, who am I to even expect them not to sleep with other people? If the person I'm romantically involved with really wants to have sex with other people, then maybe they should be. My only responsibility is that if they do sleep with other people, is to ask myself: Is this type of relationship a good fit for me? If no, then I wish them well and move on, if yes than okay, I'll continue.
It's incredibly freeing having this outlook. I had it when I was much younger, before the idea of marriage entered my mind. Marriage is no longer a factor for me, not that I wouldn't consider getting married in the future; it's just not my planned destination, the journey is what I'm interested in.
Suddenly dating and relationships no longer seem so daunting. Many single women in their 30's have warned me about dating at this age. Yes, there were some awkward starts however, generally, I've quite enjoyed it and made some new friends in the process.