One day you are going to be strolling down the street and your most nagging fear is going to walk towards you and you are going to realize you don't fear it anymore. You sure as hell don't want it in your life, but it no longer knocks the wind out of you or buckles your knees.
One day, after 18 months of taking it one day at a time, you realized how strong you have become. You went to group therapy, you meditated, you focussed on your art, you drew your friends close to you and let others go. All of these things, they added up. You didn't even know how much, until that fear rounded the corner, looked right at you and headed in your direction...and you didn't duck into the nearest store. You didn't turn around and run away. Instead you breathed, focused on your priorities, kept your loved ones happily oblivious to the fear approaching. You didn't even imagine the worst. You simply stayed in the moment, one breath at a time, one step at a time, the words of your children filling your chest with purpose. Then the fear passed right by. You even turned to watch it go. "That's it?" You ask your body. "You're not going to give out on me in a few minutes are you legs?" But they stayed strong, unlike the last time you faced that fear. You wondered "when am I going to burst into tears?" But the urge to cry didn't not come. Not right away.
It's later, when you realized the enormity of where you came from to where you are now that you cried. When you knew that from now on you will not feel the need to check the grocery store parking lot, or do a scan of the pub when you walk in. You see now how your life is going to change. You are no longer a victim and this fear holds no more power over you.
You also realized that DAMN you were looking fine, in your swooping scarf, long Stylin jacket, new 'do, a ukulele in one hand and a briefcase in the other. You were a walking powerhouse of an artistic business woman, with a side of nurturer...and you were 100% your independent self. You dressed that way for you and you only, you did not wake up that morning and ask yourself what would "so and so" (in the past, a romantic interest) think of this outfit? You have become whole again. You just needed an old fear to round the corner to realize it.